2014-10-15 General Meeting Minutes
Montclair PTA General Meeting
Wednesday, October 15, 2014
Montclair Multipurpose Room
Amy called the meeting to order at 7:15 pm.
No official sign-in was provided, but approximately 30 people assembled for the meeting. Quorum is 20. Quorum is present.
Amy welcomed the audience and presented the agenda for the evening.
- Corinne and Jennifer discussed the Otter Walk. Corinne discussed the tri tip sales; get your orders in.
- Jennifer answered questions regarding the use of dojiggy.
- Otter bucks will be used to purchase things like face painting, snack shack, lunch items, etc.
- There are still volunteer slots available! Please help on the day of the event.
- If you have any questions about the otter walk, email Jennifer Keith.
Montclair Parent Presentation
Dr. Susan DeMersseman, Ph. D.
Dr. DeMersseman is a psychologist, writer, and parent educator. She is also the MES “climate consultant” helping MES students and families.
She touched on key ideas regarding parenting and kids:
- Kids act as good as they know how to; good behavior is learned. Children are not withholding existing abilities to aggravate us. Be patient and reinforce what “to” do instead of what “not” to do.
- “They come that way,” meaning there is power in temperament and variation does not equal pathology. Both sides to a characteristic.
- “We all get our turn.” Your understanding may yield future understanding.
- Teach replacement skills. Discuss what they could have done in place of what they actually did.
- Choose your battles and use distractions. Ask yourself, “What do you really want to battle about?” After you have made your point, change the subject with a more interesting topic to help ease anger and hostility.
- Focus on the effort instead of the product.
- Encourage good manners
- Advocate for the best choices, but let your child be wrong.
- Choice vs. no choice: Give children choices as well as help them make good choices.
- Worries and fears: students need a chance to explore fears in order to help conquer them. First gather information about what your child is afraid of, and then form an action plan that can remove any possibility of that fear reoccurring. Lastly, fill that space with other thoughts to help prevent your child from focusing on that fear.
Dr. DeMersseman ended with a question and answer session.
Meeting adjourned at 8:33pm